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Coping with chronic loneliness

03:38pm, 26/08/14

Man on benchDuring a speech last year, Health Secretary Jeremy Hunt condemned the way the British neglect our elderly relatives as a “moral outrage” and “national shame”. Hunt went on to state that there are approximately five million people in the country who say that the television is their main form of company! While the elderly are more likely to find themselves in situations leading to chronic loneliness, this kind of affliction applies to people of all ages. Whether you lack social confidence, suffer from social anxiety or have simply found yourself in a situation where you feel isolated, chronic loneliness can have a severe impact on both your mental and physical health.

Lack of social skills and low self-worth

The ability to read social cues and interact with other people is a skill we can develop over time, but some people certainly find it harder than others. If you’re naturally introverted and don’t spend a lot of time around other people, this can damage your ability to interact socially, which can make you less inclined to do so! Likewise, if you suffer from a condition such as aspergers which makes reading social cues difficult to start with, it can seem like an enormous uphill battle to get to a level of proficiency.

While spending large amounts of time alone can often be great for distraction-free productivity and achieving goals, it’s important to remember that man is a herd animal. Forming great relationships, whether platonic or romantic, are some of the most rewarding experiences we can have as humans – so it’s crucial to develop a health level of self esteem and good social skills so that you can bring fantastic people into your life. Hypnotherapy has been proven for helping people to raise their self esteem, and as for social skills, they are just another skill that can be mastered like anything else – don’t let the process discourage you.

open doorUnfortunate predicaments

But what if you’ve just moved to a new area, or you simply don’t have anyone to talk to? While there are particular situations that can lead to loneliness, a significant effort to counteract the problem is usually enough to solve it. Oftentimes, the reason people become lonely is because they are unable to face their fears – whether it be fear of rejection, fear of learning a new skill, fear of doing something out of the ordinary or just a fear of socialising. Hypnotherapy takes a more holistic approach to curing loneliness, enabling people to become more confident and take the courses of action that they previously would have made excuses about.

In life we are either growing or stagnating, and if you’ve been sitting in your comfort zone for too long then the prospect of making changes to your lifestyle can seem daunting. If your irrational fears are preventing you from reaching out and connecting with people, you may want to consider undergoing hypnotherapy.

Disclaimer: with all hypnotherapy, results and the number of sessions required may vary from individual to individual.

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