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Using hypnosis to maintain healthy relationships

10:15pm, 11/02/14

love heartBeing in a healthy, loving relationship is one of the most fulfilling experiences we can have as human beings. Having a partner to support us when we’re down and laugh with us when we’re up is truly rewarding. However, as a species we tend to put a lot more time and energy into finding relationships than we do in maintaining them! Perhaps the romance novels and soppy films are to blame – we love to see the drama and arduous journey the lead characters have to go through before they finally walk into the sunset hand-in-hand to live happily ever after. With this in mind, it’s easy to see marriage as the conclusion to our personal journey rather than the start of another chapter. For a relationship to be truly prosperous, both partners have to grow together, and that often means having to grow as individuals first.

There are many reasons why relationships go sour, but almost all of them involve some kind of disconnect between the two parties involved. The parties can get help from hypnotherapy, if they so wish. But unlike other therapies such as relationship counselling, hypnosis is performed on the two individuals separately. In this way, hypnosis tackles the causes rather than the symptoms of relationship problems for a more holistic solution. If both parties are more aware of their behaviour, communicating better and feeling more confident within themselves, the relationship will automatically take a turn for the better.

Self confidence

Confidence is arguably the most attractive personality trait we can have when it comes to finding a partner. However, a common behaviour trait of people with low self esteem is to seek out relationships as a way of filling their own internal void. So instead of looking for a relationship where both parties can flourish and grow, these individuals are using their relationship to seek external validation to compensate for how poorly they view their own self worth. It goes without saying that someone in this kind of negative state of mind is not going to be able to maintain a very healthy relationship. Any insecurities they have when they were single are sure to manifest in a relationship, sabotaging the joy and fulfilment for both parties.

Fortunately, low self esteem is not a permanent condition and can be rectified with hypnosis. A lot of the time the unfortunate experiences we’ve had while growing up that resulted in our low self esteem were not of our own making, and are certainly not worthy of holding on to as part of our identity as adults! Of course, this is easier said than done. During hypnosis, regression techniques can be used to tackle these bad memories and stop them from impacting the present and the future. Once you come to terms with a troublesome past experience, it can seem hilarious and ridiculous that you dedicated so much energy towards it!

Heightened self-awareness for improved empathy

There is an old expression in psychology: “the map is not the territory”; in other words, reality is inherently subjective. It’s easy to forget that another person’s map of reality might not match our own, and we often find ourselves confused when friction occurs because of this. We all have our own values and beliefs; remembering this is one of the keys to empathy, and is therefore essential in maintaining healthy relationships. Undergoing a series of hypnosis sessions can help you to see reality from the perspective of your partner. This can give you key insights into their behaviour and see the positive causes behind certain actions that you might consider to be dysfunctional or inappropriate. From a position of true empathy, you’re much more likely to be able to come to an amicable conclusion about ongoing issues within the relationship.

These are just a few of the ways that hypnosis can be used to help relationships, for more information don’t hesitate to get in contact!

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Disclaimer: with all hypnotherapy, results and the number of sessions required may vary from individual to individual.

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